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This is an open letter to all the guys out there, single and married. Make us feel sexy and we’re yours forever, make us feel slutty and well…

It never fails, I go out with a guy on a first date, I’m feeling it, he’s feeling it and then things just suddenly go south. He’s reading the signs, I’ve let him slightly touch my leg, maybe twirled my hair a bit and then BOOM – the idiot does something that utterly makes my sexy flirtations feel like I’ve whistled at him like a street walker.

[clickToTweet tweet=”Random butt play won’t make the moment MORE romantic! #sex #love #relationships #analaugust” quote=”Random butt play won’t make the moment MORE romantic!”]I don’t blame men, they are wired for sex. The truth of the matter is, the more finesse and thought a guy puts into his approach, the more fun both of us have. So guys, if you want to get further, here are a few tips:

5 Ways To Make Women Feel Sexy, not Slutty

Avoid Dick Pics!

We’ve just met that night, what’s your first move. Here’s what it shouldn’t be – sending a dick pic. We’ve seen them, they’re cool, but I’m not a hooker and even if I were, I still wouldn’t want to see photos of your penis. This is not an episode of The League and you’re not getting brownie points for sending junk shots. Keep the texting action to a minimum. I’ve had a guy who could almost put me in a trans state by telling me sexy bedtime stories over the phone before we met. There was sex in them, but it was fantasy and definitely nothing hardcore. Keep it PG-13 to soft R, at least for now!

Adventurous Sex Does Not Include The Taco Bell Bathroom

Every woman wants to be wined, dined and be ravished on silk sheets at the end of the night. We don’t think that sex in the Taco Bell bathroom after a heavy night of drinking is the least bit attractive. Don’t try to push us into sex anywhere people clean with a hose. Parking lots, bathrooms, alleys are all on our no-no list. Although hot tubs might sound like a great place for sex, in reality they are full of bacteria that can do horrible things to our lady business. If you want to have thrilling sex, rent a luxury sports car, go for a fast drive and park it somewhere fun, that can be sexy without the stink of … stank.

Buy Us Lingerie With Class and a Crotch

Women like lingerie that is crotch-ful and sexy, not crotchless and slutty! Given a choice, buy from Victoria’s Secret, not Frederick’s of Hollywood or your neighborhood XXX video store. Be incredibly careful if your girl is sensitive about her weight. Even though Lane Bryant caters to larger women, it could irreparably hurt our feelings if you buy from there.

[clickToTweet tweet=”Remember, women like lingerie that is crotch-ful and sexy, not crotchless and slutty! #dating #sex” quote=”Remember, women like lingerie that is crotch-ful and sexy, not crotchless and slutty!”]

No Random Butt Play

Never assume a woman wants butt play! If we’ve had it before and mentioned we enjoyed it, then it’s potentially on the table. Always ask before going near that part of our body. If we’re okay with it, make sure to use the proper lube for it and protection if you aren’t in a monogamous relationship. Be gently and slow and the experience can be phenomenal. A butt plug can potentially make vaginal sex feel incredible, but again… let’s talk first.

Use Your Words

Some women really enjoy talking dirty and some don’t. It can be the difference between a memorable sexual experience and our last date together depending on when, how or why you’re saying what you’re saying. By getting the lay of the verbal land, following our cues and responding accordingly, aural sex can sometimes be better than oral sex. Be careful when using words like “Bitch, Cunt, Slut, Whore” unless prompted by us. These words have powerful meanings and can have immeasurable impact on our experience.

Sex is fun, and we love it as much as you do, but make us feel like whores and chances are, you will probably never see us again, unless we charge by the hour and perhaps not even then. We hope these 5 ways to make women feel sexy, not slutty will help in your endeavors.