Going to a swingers’ club for the first time is a nerve-wracking experience. With a little information and preparation, you can have a fun, safe experience that you’ll be thinking about for months afterward.
Who Should Go To A Swingers’ Club?
Couples
If you’re a couple who are comfortable in your relationship and your sexuality, a swingers’ club is a thrilling experience. Have a meaningful conversation with each other about your expectations before heading out.
Single Women
Single women are universally accepted at clubs. In many cases, they can get in for free.
Single Men
Most clubs do not allow single men in without a female. If you get in, you will be subject to a more expensive entry fee and may not have access to all areas of the club without an escort of some kind, either a couple or single female.
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What is off limits?
Without a clear understanding of what you/your partner will not tolerate, you will quickly end up in an argument or fight. Guaranteed.
What kind of experience are you looking for?
Being a voyeur at clubs is a great way to get your thrills, without any of the emotional risk of sex with a stranger. You may want to participate after a few visits and you’ve got a better concept of what happens in the club.
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How much will we drink?
Most clubs allow you to bring your own alcohol. Be keenly aware of how much you are drinking, your lowered inhibitions may get one or both of you in trouble.
Before You Go
- Call the club and ask about dress, entry fees, rules and the alcohol situation
- Figure out what you will wear to the club and while in the club
- Buy your alcohol
- Get a stack of singles to give the bartenders at the bar
- Find out if the club provides free food, many do. If not, eat a simple meal before heading out
Do’s and Don’ts at Clubs
Do
Bring Alcohol
Clubs are considered private establishments and typically don’t have liquor licenses. They do allow you to bring your own booze.
Check in Your Alcohol
Most clubs need you to check your alcohol in to a bar. Your bottle has an identifier that may include your first name or an ID code. Bartenders usually give free mixers, but they aren’t typically employees, so tip well!
Bring A Small Backpack
You may not want to head out wearing the same clothes you’d wear in the club. Many women opt to wear far skimpier clothing than even the most liberal nightclubs would allow. Swing clubs have usually have locker areas where people can change. Bring a small combo lock to ensure you aren’t trying to find a key at the end of the evening.
Bring Identification
Most clubs need you to join before entering. You will need an official ID card issued by a state or federal agency for entry.
Listen
At clubs “no” means “no!” If you are told by anyone at the club to stop what you are doing, by all means, stop! Having sex or touching someone without their consent is assault and will result in you being barred from the club.
Ask For A Tour
When you arrive to the club, ask the person at the door if you can get a tour, ask lots of questions and don’t be embarrassed at all, everyone has a first time.
DON’T
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Expect Everyone Wants To Have Sex With You
Clubs are NOT brothels. If a woman or couple want you to participate with them, they will usually signal you. Don’t assume sex is always on the menu.
Get Drunk
Getting wasted at a swingers’ club is a really bad idea. It breaks up relationships and leads to all kinds of issues.
Take Photos
Swing clubs are not places for taking selfies or Instagram’ing your friends. Leave your selfie stick at home. Most people who attend are extremely private and not interested in coming up on your social feed. You risk being booted from the club permanently and possibly getting roughed up by whoever you snapped.
Have sex in areas where it’s not allowed
Every club has designated play areas. Know where they are and respect the clubs rules.
What to expect
Most clubs have a hotline you can call in advance. The front door will check you and collect any membership fees. After check-in, head to the bar to check you alcohol. The locker room is usually your next stop. Locker rooms are unisex, so don’t expect privacy, it is a sex club after all! Get a drink and walk around, find the play areas, dance floor and most importantly the restroom. The crowd is a little shy until about 12am. That’s when the real fun begins!
Hopefully we have answered all your questions about how swingers’ clubs work!
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